Thursday, January 22, 2009

No Longer Miss Independent

Recently a great friend of mine, Jamie Davis-Woodard came down for a visit. I was SO happy to see her. We don't get to see each other that often, but when we do it seems like not a day has passed since our last visit. She was the only one of my friends in my wedding. We didn't want anyone to feel left out and it made it easier to have her instead of choosing between my high school friends. I can still remember the day that we met in college. She just turned towards me in one of our many health classes and said, "Hi, my name is look like a cool person, do you wanna hang out?" That is just the type of person she is. She is probably one of my most analytical and wild friends that I have and I just love her.

Anyways, during her visit we were having a long talk about that changes in her life since marriage and the changes in my life since Bronson. She made a strong statement that has got me thinking a lot. She said that it seems that ever since Kyle and I had Bronson we seem more like a couple than two individuals. She said that she had always admired our ability to live two individual lives, but felt that Bronson had been just what we needed to make our relationship more of as one rather than two ones running around.

I happen to agree with her completely. When people ask if your relationship changes after kids, I would say definitely. How can it not? For Kyle and I it has made a life change in our relationship. I didn't think that we could ever be closer, but we have become so much closer since the birth of our boys. I realize now that before I had Bronson I did mostly my own thing and same with Kyle. We still loved each other, but we spent most of the time doing stuff individually. We now feel more like a family should feel like. I feel that those first four years were necessary for us to grow as individuals, yet I am so happy for this chapter in my life. I am also happy that we have a strong foundation to carry our marriage through all chapters of life. Having children has truly made the spark come back in our relationship and watching Kyle with Bronson makes me fall in love with him over and over again on a daily basis.

Thanks Jamie for pointing out this change in my life. I am so happy that you are beginning your new chapter of marriage in your life.