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Friday, January 9, 2015

2014 Highlights

You might think that my life has too much stress and not enough fun, but one of my favorite things to do is to take pictures and I realize while going through these pictures that I have way more blessings than sorrows. My family is beautiful, loving, and kind. We have made some wonderful memories in 2014.
Fight Night at OSU Boxing Club with the boys January 2014

Ashley cuts her hair to get ready for chemo January 2014

Giant snow storm in Blodgett, Oregon February 2014

Jace turns 2 February 2014

My BBQ lovin' boys get matching shirts February 2014

Ashley and I try on wigs February 2014

I speak at Fashion Show for March of Dimes February 2014

Kandis and I go to coast for Girl's weekend end of February 2014

Fight Night March 2014

Three generations of bike riders March 2014

Henley is born in March 2014

While on a business trip I travel to Disneyland by myself April 2014

Capturing the magic April 2014

Ashley was life-flighted to OHSU while I was gone to LA...stopped close to midnight to see her April 2014

Spent a Girl's Night with some of my lovely small group girl April 2014

Oaklen turns 3

Easter 2014

March for Babies 2014 with my WHOLE family

Kyle spends a week in the hospital May 2014

Bronson graduates kindergarten May 2014

Dad gets his first tattoo June 2014

Jace and Bronson fall in love June 2014

I coordinate Nathan and Whitney's wedding June 7, 2014

I go to Washington with Summer and Kandis to see a concert June 2014

WOU Graduation June 2014

Cousin picture attempt June 2014

Cousin sleepover June 2014

Wedding proposal June 2014

First hike with Bronson doing it all himself, Silver Creek Falls July 2014

Freedom Fest BBQ July 4, 2014: We hosted a big party too!

Daddy and B went to lots of car shows, Corvette placed 1st at Dallas Car Show

Bronson enjoys BBQ at Pacific City, July 2014

Lexi and her family joined us at Pacific City July 2014

Sisters Weekend July 2014

March of Dimes Night at Corvallis Knights Game August 2014

Ann and Bill got a 5th Wheel

Andreas was born in August 2014

I met Jeremy Camp at Fishfest August 2014

Dad got us backstage passes to Fishfest August 2014

Family Roadtrip August 2014

Crater Lake, August 2014

Austin and James got married, August 31, 2014

My handsome boys at Austin's wedding


Small Group Fun Day at Oaks Park, September 2014
Bronson started 1st grade

I turned 33 at the coast, September 2014

Chaperoned Bronson's zoo trip, October 2014

Airlie Farms October 2014

Road the Max, Work Trip October 2014

Women's Retreat October 2014


Bronson and I dressed like Zombies, October 2014

Hosted Thanksgiving for 35 people, November 2014


Participated in CCS Parade December 2014

Christmas 2014

Storybook Land December 2014
All of the girls with their guys, Christmas Eve 2014

Santa came Christmas 2014
Celebrated 11 years at the coast, December 2014

Still in love, 11 years later

Thursday, January 8, 2015

Online Class Conduct: My Thoughts

It seems that there is a growing trend to think that because no one can see your face during an online class that it is perfectly acceptable to be rude, disrespectful, and to write as if you are text messaging your "BFF." As an undergraduate/graduate student I never took an online class, but have been fascinated with them as my previous Master's program is now fully online. A few terms ago I was offered the chance to teach one of my courses online for the CJ program and I instantly realized how some students felt that computer allowed them to conduct themselves in manners that they would never participate in during a normal class. I actually had  student send me an email laced with four-letter words because they didn't feel I had given them a good enough grade. (This student also did not know the difference between there, they're, and their)...need I say more?

I had wondered if this was just my course that this happened, but after consulting with colleagues have been told that they have discovered completely copied and pasted responses in their forum, texting abbreviations in academic posts, and an overall disregard for social interaction with their fellow classmates. My husband is currently enrolled in the online MA of Criminal Justice program at WOU and was flabbergasted this week when he read a post of an undergraduate student in one of his online courses. Basically the student wasn't able to find a required text book and so she decided to post a rather rude/curt forum subject to the professor on their online learning platform. A lot of things went through my head as I read the post that he was telling me about.

  • Did this student realize that it was the first week of classes and the professor might not have been able to get the book on reserve? The book wasn't assigned until week 5.
  • Had this student read through the introductions by her peers in the course? Did she realize that this was a slash course, meaning that she was in a course with undergraduate and graduate students? 
    • Did she read any of their bios and realize some of the positions held of her peers?
  • Would she conduct herself like this in a face-to-face course?
Perhaps my thoughts are created by the fact that I know that one of her classmates is the C.O.O of a large non-profit organization in her local area. This student may be on the other side of the table later in life when she finds herself looking for a job. They may not have a face to put with her name, but you better believe that they will remember the name of the person that was disrespectful in their online class. I was told by my husband that another one of the peers works for the Department of Human Services in an upper-management position and this same student said in her bio that she would love to work for them.  I try not to speculate, but I wonder if this behavior is a generational thing, caused by the lack of in-person interaction, or if the person would conduct themselves like this regardless of their classroom environment. I am very interested in knowing what others think about this topic.

Monday, November 17, 2014

60 Days







What can you accomplish in 60 days? I posed this question on my Facebook tonight and got a variety of responses:

  • buying a house
  • getting through 8 weeks of a term
  • completing an online course
  • planning a community-wide event at the last minute
  • planning your sister's wedding (been there/done that)
  • surviving
  • working out and losing weight
Whatever you do with 60 days it is safe to say that a lot can be accomplished in 60 days. I will always think of 60 days as the time it took me to bring my little boy home. In 60 days I literally watched him change from a thin skinned (bright red baby) to a "chubby" six pound infant. I watched as the cartilage formed in his ears, as he grew eyelashes, kneecaps, and things formed that most babies are born with.

At three weeks old I called one of my best friends to celebrate the fact that he got to wear clothes for the first time. I watched as his daddy fed him his first bottle at almost one month old. I held back tears as I watched the fear mixed with joy that his grandparents felt being able to hold him for the first time. Day in and day out I prayed that his homecoming date would come soon. I prayed that my little boy would start eating better and learning how to manage his breathing and temperature more regularly so that he could finally come home. A lot can be done in 60 days. 

If I do not count the week prior to Bronson's birth when I was on bed rest in the hospital I can list many of the things that I personally didd in the 60 days after Bronson's birth:

  • What seemed like just minutes after Bronson's birth the doctors allowed Kyle to hand carry him into the delivery room to show him to me without tubes, wires or medical equipment. I will never be able to fully explain that time literally stood still when I realized that this was a very good sign and that although I could only see his little eyes we made eye contact and I knew that he would be okay.
  • As everyone met my little baby in the NICU and his daddy got to accompany them back and forth my sweet nurse took me to a private room to prepare me for a short viewing of my son that was born still. His daddy and I had just a brief moment together to say our goodbyes before moving to the mode of NICU mommy and daddy.
  • My sister spoke out and became my advocate and demanded that they allow me to not only be allowed in the NICU but that I would get to hold my baby. It might have only been less than a minute, but I am thankful that I got to hold my son on the day his was born.
  • The days that passed after his birthday were days that were somewhat similar:
    • Watch baby sleep
    • Change baby
    • Watch baby be fed small drops of breastmilk through a tube
    • PUMP, PUMP, and PUMP...
    • Thank the nurses and doctors over and over again for saving your babies life.
  • Realize as you are released on day five of the hospital that you will not be going back to your home for a long time. My rival town (Eugene) would become a home away from home for the next 55 days.
  • Watch your baby literally grow before your eyes.
  • Celebrate each success...temperature control, weight gain, eating a bottle, taking a bath, first month pictures with Bearson, visits from family, able to poop without medicine (even this is a reason for celebration)
  • Get a call from the local funeral home that your baby is ready to be picked up. Mentally prepare yourself to pick up your son and bring "him" home before your other baby's homecoming is even on the horizon.
  • Have 8 weekend dinners with family that come to see you and try to peal you away from the NICU.
  • Become such a regular at the cafeteria that everyone knows you by name and has your special plate all ready.
  • Complete a punch card at the sandwich shop behind the hospital
  • Form friendships with your NICU nurses that are lifelong
  • Cry with NICU roommates as they hear more bad news
  • Celebrate as your baby moves into an open air crib, but mourn the day that the twins next to you get moved together (there are constant reminders that your baby has a brother)
  • Do kangaroo care EVERY SINGLE DAY
  • Take pictures of handsome hubby doing night time kangaroo care EVERY SINGLE NIGHT
  • Watch your baby code because of some unknown virus
  • Watch your baby smile, coo, and generally enjoy life in the NICU
  • Fall completely and head over heals in love with a 2 lb miracle
 The list could go on and on, but as you can see there is no lack of activities that can happen in 60 days after the birth of a preemie. Every single day counts in the womb. My mission is to see more women experience full-term (more than 39 weeks) pregnancies. Each day in the womb is one less day in the NICU. Instead of celebrating the National Prematurity Awareness day I choose to educate and let you know the importance of making a difference to stop it. I also do this to advocate for those without a voice or those that feel embarrassed to speak out about the babies that were born still. They are still very much your baby and it is okay to talk about your loss. Please join with me in making a difference in prematurity. http://www.marchforbabies.org/amberdeets

Tuesday, June 17, 2014

Summer 2014 Plans


Our little boy graduated Kindergarten in May. It is still hard to believe that he will start first grade in the fall. We were thankful that he made it to graduation as the very next day he became very ill and spent the next six days vomiting and having us try to control his raging fever. I felt very bad for him as he missed his field trip, end of year party, and saying goodbye to his friends. Prior to his graduation his daddy had spent four days in the local hospital, so our end of May was very dramatic in the sense of illness. I am glad to have the month of May over!

Our Summer is going to be a busy one. My boss approved me to work four ten hour shifts, so I will be having three day weekends the entire summer. Bronson will also be spending every Wednesday and Friday with his Yaya so he gets to do some fun stuff. I am so thankful for this extra time that we will spend together. We haven't completed our bucket list yet, but I plan to follow my colleague's lead and make most of the items easy and inexpensive. I think our biggest splurge will be a miniature road trip around Oregon. We planned to take a full seven days to complete this trip, but had to restructure after the lengthy two week "illvacation" we both took last month.

My plan is to take this summer to read, write, and regroup. My soul needs relaxation, sun, and lots of time cuddling my loved ones. Perhaps part of my soul therapy will be more blog posts!